5 Dating Non-Negotiables
There is nothing I love more than a Sunday afternoon of watching trashy TV shows. E!, TLC, Bravo, you name it; they are constantly playing on my TV. A few weeks ago, I was watching a Millionaire Matchmaker marathon (best idea ever) and the genius known as Patti Stanger kept urging all of her millionaires to come up with a list of 5 non-negotiables for a potential partner to help them better narrow down the sea of women passing them by. I thought I’d come up with my own list, so here’s to hoping this helps out my dating life.
I’m not going to lie to everyone or pretend I’m less shallow than I actually am, because without that level of attraction, I won’t even consider a guy. He doesn’t have to be really really, ridiculously good-looking or anything, but if I don’t want to jump his bones after a few glasses of wine, it’s not a good sign. I guess I could say my type is tall, dark, and handsome, but I’ve been known to go for the occasional blonde. Say what you will, but if you look like the Keibler elf, I doubt any girl reading this would think, “wanna tap it!”
This really should be my number one, because sometimes an only-kinda-cute guy who is really funny becomes attractive in my eyes, but it is more of a supporting factor of overall attractiveness. This may not be so for most girls, but if a guy is that class clown, center of attention kind of funny, he’ll gain like 50 attractive points immediately in my book. I can’t express enough how important a sense of humor is to me. Above all, I want to be having fun with whomever I’m with. I’m not friends with any boring people, so why would I want to date one?
I used to think this wasn’t that important, until I dated a living Ken doll. He was gorg, 6’7”, built…basically, God knew what he was doing when He created him. So what’s the problem? I’m pretty sure he didn’t have 2 brain cells to rub together. It was so exhausting having to explain EVERYTHING to him, and after a while his pretty face just wasn’t worth it. I’m not asking for Steve Jobs, but usually things work best when you’re around the same level of intelligence.
Nothing is more frustrating than a really smart guy who wastes it away! I don’t have an extremely detailed 10-year plan laid out for myself or anything, but I at least have an idea of where I’m going and what I want to do with my life. If you just want to sit around and play Madden all day long, be my guest, but I’ll be out with the guy who actually has a job.
5. Easy to Talk to
Anybody who’s met me can tell you I’m a Chatty Cathy. Even though I LOVE talking, I still like listening and having a decent conversation. I love sharing interests, talking, debating, etc. so it’s quite the buzzkill when I’m with a strong, silent type. It’s really important for me to have someone who is a talker as well so it’s 50-50…or 60-40.