I hated doing college visits with my parents when I was in high school. My mom was always asking about academics, the health center, and an assortment of other things that I would never care about. One of the few enjoyable aspects of these visits was my dad’s commentary. Being the old, wise man that he is, he focused primarily on the female specimens that surrounded us on our tours of campuses throughout the southeast.
For the most part, I can’t remember what my old man said. However, there is one thing that stood out. I clearly remember him saying, word for word, “You’d have to try not to get laid.” Now, I don’t know if his statement was based on research or if it was just that sort of knowledge and wisdom that comes with age, but he was right. Studies now show that college women are more willing to engage in a “hookup lifestyle” than ever before.
The author of a compelling New York Times article, “Sex on Campus: She Can Play That Game, Too,” interviewed more than 60 female college students at the University of Pennsylvania—ambitious, results-oriented, academically busy—who’re also committed to remaining relationally unattached for the foreseeable future.
Essentially, female college students are more goal-oriented than ever before. They’re focused on pursuing their degree, getting good grades, and landing a good job. However, they still want to hook up. What does that mean for you? Commitment-free sex, something men have sought since the dawn of time.
Don’t believe me? Here’s what some young women on campuses have said in anonymous interviews:
– “Ten years from now, no one will remember — I will not remember — who I have slept with. But I will remember, like, my transcript, because it’s still there. I will remember what I did. I will remember my accomplishments and places my name is hung on campus.”
– “There’s this hypothetical, ‘I would like to be in a relationship, because it’s like comforting and stable and supportive.’ But then, the conversations that I’ve had, it’s always like, ‘Well, then what do I do when we get to May, because we’re graduating, and so where do we go from there?’ That uncertainty is a huge sort of stop sign.”
– “It’s kind of like a spiral. The girls adapt a little bit, because they stop expecting that they’re going to get a boyfriend — because if that’s all you’re trying to do, you’re going to be miserable. But at the same time, they want to, like, have contact with guys.”
By “contact with guys,” I’m pretty sure she meant a quality boning session.
What’s my take on it? Well, it sounds like it’s a good deal for us. Sadly, I don’t think it’s as good as it sounds. Even if young women in college are more in favor of commitment-free sex than ever before, that doesn’t necessarily take nature out of the equation. I’m no biologist, but I’m pretty sure that, deep down, every woman is trying to lock down a man. It’s just science.
[via The Blaze]