When an alumnus of Lambda Chi Alpha found out his son didn’t land a legacy bid from his old house, he took to the chapter’s Facebook group to express his outrage. Someone snapped screenshots of the ensuing argument and sent them our way.
I totally understand why the father was so pissed (and, judging by his long-ass, five-part name, he seems like the type of guy who would really care about things like legacy). But taking the matter public was a bad call. Maybe if he privately messaged the current chapter president, they could’ve handed the son a late bid and said, “Whoops, forgot to get you one the first time. Sorry, bud. Now go take care of the bloody tampon stuck to the bathroom ceiling.” But since he went scorched earth in front of everyone, his son would be way too embarrassed to join — he would know that everyone else knows he’s strictly a legacy bid (though, to be fair, that probably would’ve come up at some point during his pledgeship anyway).
How bad would it suck to be this kid, though? Just a cringey move by pops. Maybe the son didn’t even want to join so he didn’t show up to any rush events. Maybe the son joined a different fraternity.
On another note, one of the comments on the post brings up an interesting point about fraternities in general. Do chapters care less about legacy than they used to? If so, is that a good thing or a bad thing? Personally, I really dug the one alum’s take on being in control of your own destiny, regardless of familial ties. And again, I also understand the father’s outrage — especially if his son really wanted in — but at some point you’ve got to let your kid fight his own battles.
And while we’re asking questions, here’s a couple more. How much money does an alumnus have to donate to guarantee his son a bid? How bad does a legacy have to suck to be denied one?.
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