I have already explained, much to every one of my family members’ dismay, what goes through my mind during a hookup. Because thoughts like these race through every man’s head during coitus, we sometimes forget a few things. Notably, am I supposed to be saying something to her? Is she enjoying this? What do I do with my hands?
So we asked the gals what we’ve been doing wrong.
Ladies, what do you wish more guys would do in bed?
Depends on the guy. A guy needs to know his strengths and weaknesses. If he is great at oral, he needs to keep doing that shit. – Kellie Stritz
Dirty talk. Silent sex is so weird and unappealing. Nothing drys up a puss faster than a sweaty man grunting on top of you. – Ali Hinman
SLOW DOWN. – Rachel Page
This isn’t everyone’s cup of tea, but smack my ass goddamn it. Also one time I was having sex doggy style and the guy scratched all the way down my back, and it was really sexy. So yes, more of that please. – PlattyBlonde
It’s easy to point out the shit we as girls DON’T want guys to do in bed. It doesn’t matter who the girl you’re trying to get with is (she could be Kim K or your neighborhood hooker), I guarantee she doesn’t want you to kiss like a slobbery dog and will be totally turned off if you have poor hygiene “down there.” As for what girls WANT in bed, that gets hard to pinpoint because sexual preference varies so much from girl to girl. I have friends who want sex to be a gentle expression of love, and other friends who just want to be choked up against a wall during sex. That being said, I personally just really like it when a guy can take control in the bed. In most elements of my life I’m a total control freak so sex is the one aspect of my life where I want someone else to take the reins. Don’t be afraid to be dominant but also don’t cross the line into being freakishly aggressive. I want a guy to tell me what he wants but at the same time I don’t want him to so forceful that I end up being low key freaked out that he might be a homicidal sociopath. – Blonde_boozy
Pay attention to me. Tell me I’m pretty. Not just in bed, but in general. – Cristina Montemayor
Not ask for blowjobs. Or, and this might be a crazy idea, but you could actually ask for a BJ, receive one, and then reciprocate. Just an idea, though. – PSLsandPearls
Be confident. Not stupidly so, but so many guys don’t know what to do or can’t tell what you like. I don’t mind saying it out loud, but sometimes I wish you’d show me what I like, instead of me having to specify it for you and then draw a color-coded map. – Shannon Layne
I wish guys would spend a little bit more time on the foreplay – sometimes. There are times that I just want to get to it, but other times, I’d like more of a good, old-fashioned makeout before we get to the main event. Like high school style, under the shirt/over the bra canoodling. Sometimes it’s fun to spend a little time on the bases before making a break for home, you know? – 2NOTbrokegirls
Be more fucking aggressive, please. Hair pulling, biting, it’s all good. The worst thing guys do in bed is when they are constantly asking me “Does this feel good?” or “Do you like this?” First of all, if you have to ask if I’m having fun, I’m def not. Second, don’t be a fucking pussy in bed. If I wanted to fuck a girl, I would. But I wanted a man, so act like it. – ChampagneShowers
Foreplay. Not like “tie me up and gently stroke me with a feather while you draw me like one of your French girls” type shit, just like the normal things you’d do before you have sex with a girl for the first time. Fingering for example is SO underrated. I also wish guys would tease more. When a guy pulls back a bit when things are getting really hot it makes me want them more. – Drunk but not in love
Just communicate. You and me baby ain’t nothing but mammals, so let’s be adults and have an honest discussion about where I would like you to put that. – Lucky Jo
Anal. JK. Gazing into my eyes and telling me that I’m better than his ex. – Rachel Varina
Easily more foreplay. There doesn’t need to be a giant rush to the main event, take your time, fellas. – Anonymous
I am a pretty aggressive person. I will talk shit and fight to be on top, but I find it kind of sad if a guy lets me win. I literally weigh 100lbs, so I’m pretty easy to dominate. I want the guy to take charge and be a man, otherwise I would fuck a girl. Again. – Blue-eyed-blondie
You’ve either got a lot to learn, or the girls have got a lot to get used to. Classic red pill/blue pill scenario. Which one will you choose?.
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