Hello sweet angels. Once again, on the TFM insta, I asked you for questions you wanted me to answer. I picked these ones because they caught my eye and also because I didn’t read all the questions and these are the first ones I read.
I’m going to let my male roommate of two years answer that for you….
You sound broke. If you care that much about someone’s finances, you must be struggling. This question is interesting because you believe all women don’t have jobs?? I live in NYC, have three jobs, and am financially independent. I’m going to guess if all the girls you know don’t have jobs, you’re dating 14-year-olds. That’s weird. Maybe like date adults?
I appreciate you coming up. Even if I’m not interested, I respect the confidence! As long as you don’t come on too strong or are rude. As a rule, it’s ALWAYS better to approach the group of girls with other guys. Just you? It can be a little weird. You and your friends? Way less pressure. Please remember to read the room. While you’re talking are they looking at their phones? Not giving responses? Are you the only one talking? They probably want you to leave. From personal experience, I love meeting new people when I’m out. It’s a lot less pressure to meet and talk with a group than just one guy.
I don’t think that matters. I don’t care about people’s past. I’m settling down with who you are currently. If someone cares about that, in my opinion, it doesn’t stem from actual judgment. I think it comes from insecurity. They’re insecure with the fact that you’re more experienced. Makes them feel inferior. Just make sure to let them know how special they are to you.
However, if you have slept with multiple friends of mine, I’m going to have to pass. I don’t want to go to brunch and remember that you’ve hooked up with my friend who’s sitting next to you. Not because I can’t get over it, but because if you’ve hooked up with multiple friends of mine, you’re messing up my friend group. I can never get advice from my friends. I can never complain or vent to them about you. Can’t even brag. Unless you are the perfect person for me, it’s not worth the awkwardness. It just makes everyone uncomfortable. We’re human beings and feelings get hurt. You can’t expect that not to ever come up. Can you at least work a little harder to find girls who aren’t friends to hook up with??? That’s why dating apps exist.